Now that we’ve (barely) survived
January, it is time for the month of love. This year, I want to shift out of
the typical romance associated with Valentine’s day. While Matt is amazing and
I really love him, there are some other people in my life that deserve a little
love as well.
I recently read a book called Text
Me When You Get Home: The Evolution and Triumph of Modern Female Friendship
by Kayleen Schaefer. It is about female friendship and the fact that it has not
been talked about in media or literary history. As a response to that, this post
is paying homage to the ladies that have helped me get to where I am now. This
is my space to celebrate them and what they bring to my life.
They’re the people in my life that
have seen me go through a lot, helped me learn, and pushed me to be the best I
can possibly be. They’re the ones that inspire me daily because they’re
accomplishing things that are admirable. They’re the ones that deserve a love
letter this year.
To R – R, I cannot believe it has
barely been a year since we officially became friends. I now cannot imagine my
life without you. You are simultaneously one of the worst influences on me and
the voice of experience that teaches me what a proper human should be. You’ve
taught me that I’m not a failure because I have one hard day. You’ve shown me
what true independence looks like. You’ve also helped me realise that not all
dogs are scary and out to get me.
I admire you so much. Life has
thrown a lot of really difficult things your way in the past couple years. You
have met those things with a type of bravery I don’t think I have within
myself. Every day, you get up and face the world head on. You are so strong in
your convictions and you do not give up on anyone or anything. You are kind and
caring and intelligent (and won’t shut up about it). I am lucky to have you in
my life to look up to.
To C – You are superhuman. You are
my sleeping soulmate. You never reply to messages so I’ll wait a few days
before you actually see this. Despite trying to kill me a few times, I’m still
willing to be friends with you which says a lot about how much I like you,
doesn’t it? You have everything going your way. You’ve adulted more than anyone
I know in the past year and I think you are so cool. I wish to have half the
success you have in five years when I’m your age (which does not imply you’re
old – you’re just older than me).
You. Are. Amazing. You need to know
that. You need to know that I am so excited to see what life has to offer you
because it’s all waiting for you. You are funny and talented and you have so
many gifts to offer the world. I am so lucky to have you in my life knowing
that you always have my back and maybe even a literal drop of wine waiting for
me.
To N – My gosh, I miss you. You are
miss career woman. It has been so cool to see you go from our part time job
together where we got in trouble for voicing an opinion (which we’re still
right about) to moving up north to become a lawyer. We’ve gone from having a
dysfunctional drinking gang to moving away from home and achieving higher
things. N, I’m so proud of you. I admire your ambition so much. Every time we
talk, you’re on to the next adventure. Amidst all that business, I cannot tell
you how much it means to me for you to always make time for me when we’re both
home. You’re incredible.
To H – Ah, my friend that I’ve known
for years but not exactly sure how long that is. We have literally been through
so much together. Part time jobs, boyfriends, university, moving out, nights
out. It has been a wild ride with you by my side (the rhyme was unintentional).
I’ve missed so much of what you’ve accomplished recently. You’re absolutely
smashing your job, you’ve moved out, and you’ve started a brand new point of
your life. H, I am so so proud of you. We’ve sat and had so many marvellous
conversations about where our lives were taking us and how we were dealing with
it, and you’re doing it! I cannot wait to be back in the same place as you so
we can do it all together again.
To D – I need to stop guilting you
for leaving because I left first and that is unfair of me. I’m sorry about
that. You always seem to push me to be the best person I can be. I admire the
fact that you admit you’re struggling – more people should be like that. You
lift me up and give me the shot of positivity that I always need. I feel so loved
and wanted and appreciated by you and that means so much to me. Even overseas,
you bring a smile to my face. You support me in whatever I do. You are
relentless with your goals and I have seen you succeed at every one of them. You’re
my hero.
To A – Well, thank goodness I sat
beside you in day one Women’s Studies. I have seen you tackle every surprise
life has thrown your way with growing confidence. I wish I could have been by
your side to help with more of that. You’re incredible. You’ve managed to pull
everything together when you didn’t think it was possible. You have become an
incredible mom. I feel blessed to be a person you choose to have around your
son.
To me, you have been the greatest of
friends. We’ve had distance between us, marriage between us, and a toddler
between us, but you always make me feel like I’m important to you. Your time,
your support, and your love are some of the best things in my life.
To J – I’ll gush about you all day
every day. You’re the oldest and longest friend I’ve had. When others have come
and gone, you have been the steadiest friend of them all. Maybe it is just
out of habit, but it means the world to me nonetheless. I am awestruck by you. You’ve
come so far in life. I will never stop being proud of you for accomplishing the
goals that were, at one time, impossible. Our friendship is not one made out of
daily texts and Facetimes but something stronger – the confidence to know
you’ll always be there when I need you. I love you with all my heart.
To M – I need to give you a
testament even though we’re not friends anymore. Your friendship meant
everything to me. Having you in high school was one of the only things that
kept me going. I don’t know what I would have done without you. M, I’m sorry. I’ve
stopped trying to figure out what happened between us, but I can only say I’m
sorry now. I wasn’t the friend you needed at the time. Now, I miss you. I watch
Glee, I think of you. I see minions, I think of you. I talk about my time in
the school musicals, I miss you. We’re both in the career we set goals for, but
I wish I was doing it with you.
I’m proud to see what you’re doing.
I’m happy to see that you’re happy. Even if you never see this, and even if we
never join paths again, I am so thankful to have had you in my life.
Overall, I have the most amazing women
in my life. They’re everything I could have ever hoped for.
This month, write a love letter to
your female friends.
-
Daniella
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