When Am I Going to Feel like an Adult?

About five years ago, I wrote a blog post about becoming an adult. At that time, I was 20 and was in England for the first time. I had no idea what to expect from life or that the NEXT five years was going to be so different than what I expected. I had moved away from home for the first time, and I was getting to know who I was outside of my childhood home. I got to “adult” for the first time.

Now, I’ve done a lot more adulting, yet I still don’t feel like an adult.

I have a career, I have goals, I have savings, I’m taking care of myself, and I’m making it through a gosh-darn pandemic. I know how to cook, I have a financial advisor, I make time for friends, I’m in a stable relationship, and I know what my values are. I’ve maintained long distanced friendships, I drink water, I have hobbies, I’ve paid bills, and I budget.

Isn’t that the list? Doesn’t that mean I’ve done it? Am I an adult now?

The truth is that I just don’t feel like that. My dad still needs to explain money things to me. I still ask my mom questions about how to get stains out of my clothes. My teddy bear still sits on my bed for nighttime snuggles. Despite the fact that I’ve done so many amazing things that I’m proud of, I just don’t feel like an adult.

What does it really take? What is going to make me feel like I’m really an adult? Does the “I don’t know what I’m doing” feeling ever go away?

Real adults – help me out! I need answers!

- Daniella

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