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Small Ways To Deal With Grief

 I’ve had a hard week. The teacher that was my reason for everything died in the past week. I’m okay. I’m getting through it. I have felt numb and heavy and so sad and I finally feel a little okay today.

To be honest, I’ve been dealing with grief in a lot of different formats. I figuratively lost a friend last year which has been a very difficult process. One of my closest friends moved away this week.

Basically, everything came to a head this week. I’m not an expert at all. I’m lucky enough to say that this kind of really painful grief is relatively new to me. However, I thought I would share a few small things that have helped me.

1.      Be gentle with yourself.


I’ve watched a lot of Netflix in my evenings. I normally spend time with my sister and talk and laugh and get social. This week, I was gentle. I let myself hold these soft moments without guilt that I was wasting time.

2.      Keep spaces where the grief does not exist.

I have found myself telling people about what happened that I would not expect. I also purposely didn’t tell a group of friends because I didn’t want to talk about it. I didn’t want my entire life to be infiltrated by this sadness. In the moments where I talked to those friends, it felt okay for a second.

3.      This is a universal experience – find the words that will help you not feel alone.


What worked for me is the grief course from Headspace. I’ve only done it for a few days, but everything that has been said has been exactly what I needed to hear. Look up blogs, Instagram pages, podcasts, books that may help you. Find something to remind you that this feeling will pass and everyone goes through it at some point.

4.      Talk about the happy memories.

A friend that I lost touch with got in contact with me when she realized that we had both had that teacher. We ended up having a great conversation about all the quirky, fun quotes in the classroom. It made me feel a lot better to talk to someone who understood what I was feeling.

        Like I said, I am not a professional. I’m not qualified to give official advice. If you need help with this, please do look up a professional to talk to. This is just the small things that have helped me this week.

        If you have any other good advice, please let me know.

-        Daniella

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